Princess did a week of horse camp over the summer (day camp). We had a really bad experience with another local horse camp, but were optimistic about this one. It’s run by two ladies out of their house (but the kids never actually go inside their home. They stick to the pastures, lake and pool/patio).
Their 17-year old niece lives with them. She came to them as a foster child when she was 9. She helps out with the camp.
Princess told me on the last day that the girl had been flicking the kids, pouring gatorade on them, using lots of potty talk (like calling the kids “puke” and “diarrhea”), threatening to punch them and cursing constantly all week.
Apparantly that day, she drove with too many kids on the golf cart and one fell off. The girl was crying and the teen yelled at her to knock it off so her aunt wouldn’t find out.
Princess loved the camp, so hearing this was a real bummer. She waited until the last day to tell me because she was having fun and was afraid I wouldn’t let her go back.
I was very concerned because she looked up to the girl – she was older and had a similar background, so she felt drawn to her. That’s not the behavior I want her to look up to, obviously.
Camp was over, so I debated saying anything. I was sure these ladies knew their kid has issues. One told me what a difficult time they had for the first few years after she found out Princess was adopted at 9.
However, I decided it was my responsibility to address it. Other kids might not mention it to their parents and it sounded like things could easily escalate to really dangerous behavior.
The email was very non-accusatory. It just laid out what Princess reported in the same way I did above.
This was the response:
“Thank you for the info. We address issues like this all the time with E. To help E I will show her this email because I know she gets too rough with the kids but we oversee everything the kids do and hear more than they know we hear. All kids need to grow and especially ones with horrible backgrounds need constant direction. We adored Princess and hope to see her soon.”
Not the type of response I was expecting. If they see and hear everything, why do they allow her around the children? Didn’t sound like she had “constant direction” to me.
I had more concerns after they responded than I did before.
Princess won’t be going back to that horse camp.