Mother daughter day of relaxation

The mother daughter day out is one of my favorite things in life.

Yesterday was the last day of spring break.  We still hadn’t decided 100% what we were going to do about school for Princess.

The last two weeks have been very stressful – so munch uncertainty.  Will she go back to school or won’t she?  Princess has gone back and forth about wanting to, but being extremely anxious about it (to the point I wasn’t sure if it would be a good idea even if she was willing) to being adamant that she absolutely didn’t want to return to public school.

She’s the one this decision impacts the most, so her opinion is absolutely important.

As the end of spring break got closer, her anxiety got higher (and her insomnia stronger).

I called a time out yesterday.

I booked a last minute mother daughter day of relaxation at a resort a few towns over.  My sister scored us vouchers for day passes.

Princess was up since 3 a.m. that morning.  She was exhausted, stressed and her head hurt.

I took her anyway.

It could have been a disaster.

It turned out to be exactly what we both needed.

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It was a beautiful day in the high 70s and sunny.  There was a wonderful breeze.

I complain about the Florida heat a LOT, but it was one of those days where I actually did feel like I was living in paradise.

We each had a fresh book.  We moved about the resort trying out various outdoor beds, loungers and couches.

We read, drank fruity drinks, ate yummy food and swam the day away.

It was perfection.

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At one point, Princess was curled up on a couch in the shade with her book, a Shirley Temple and some BBQ ribs.  She said, “This is the life!”

She was begging to go back before we even left the property.

As for school?  It resumed today and she didn’t go.  We decided to keep her home for the rest of the school year.  We’re still working out the kinks on what exactly that will look like.

My apologies to those of you who did not have a warm, sunny day yesterday.  I wish I could give you the excess from the 100 degree days we’ll be having soon.

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  1. Lynn says

    I’m glad you guys came to a decision together about school. I hope this brings both of you some much deserved peace! :)

  2. peskie says

    can’t wait to hear all about school
    Princess is a smart cookie. I’m sure she’ll do well no matter what. How’s she feeling about it?

  3. Emily says

    I’m glad to hear you’re doing the homeschooling thing for the rest of the year. I truly believe you won’t regret it.

  4. Naomi says

    Recommended reading: The Teenage Liberation Handbook by Grace Llewellyn. It’s a bit heavy-handed on the “school is evil” trope at the beginning, but if you skip past that it has some really great tips on how to start learning without going to school, and even addresses what to do for specific subjects.

  5. Keira says

    I’m glad you’re homeschooling her for the rest of the year. I am a tutor and I work with struggling students on a daily basis. Many of my students have emotional issues and other challenges (sensory processing disorder, ADD, etc) which make attending (and excelling in) school very difficult because they seem to “fall thorough the cracks”. The public school system teaches to the majority and many classes have up to 37 students now (in my state at least).

    Several of my clients have chosen homeschooling for their children and it has done amazing things for their self-esteem, self-confidence and academic skills. Many of my homeschooled students are ahead of the public school students in many academic areas. If they are good at language arts and behind in math, they can do advanced language arts work and remedial math work. Every lesson is tailored to their individual needs,

    One of my previous students, a first grader, was struggling so much academically that his peers began to notice and they began to tease him. He was also going through emotional stress and that stress combined with the stress he was experiencing at school caused him to start losing his hair. :( His mother made the choice to pull him out of school and enroll him in virtual public school via K12. I became his learning coach through K12 instead of his tutor. K12 allowed him to work at his own pace initially. He struggled in language arts, but did well in math. At first, K12 allowed him to continue the language arts tutoring program we were already doing as part of his language arts class. They also tailored his K12 language arts curriculum, so that it would not be as challenging as the regular 1st grade language arts curriculum.

    The K12 program was “free” to his mother because it is included in state taxes because it is public school (It’s not this way in all states). I found it to be a very convenient school alternative because all of the lesson plans are laid out for the parent (or learning coach). You just log in and access the lessons for the day. We were only required to do 4 hours of instruction per day and there was no homework. This really took the pressure off of my stressed-out student. The first week of K12, you could see a huge difference in him. All the stress just fell off of him. His hair came back and he seemed so much happier because we could go at his pace.

    Even if you don’t do K12, there are many other homeschooling options, including putting your own curriculum together. At the end of our time with K12 (near the end of the school year) there was some pressure from K12 to get him up to 2nd grade level. He had learning disabilities and that was not going to happen in only 6 months (his mom had pulled him from regular public school after half a year in first grade, so he only finished out his 1st grade year with K12 and went back to regular public school for 2nd grade).

    If you don’t want any pressure, you might want to put together your own curriculum. They did want us to use their curriculum and we had to meet quarterly with a teacher to make sure he was on track, but that particular student couldn’t keep up with the curriculum. But K12 did work well for awhile because his mother didn’t want to come up with her own lesson plans and K12 provided those. Since Princess struggles with stress so severely, it might be better to go out on your own so you don’t have someone telling you what level she should be at by a certain date…Although since she has an IEP, they may work with you since it is virtual public school. I don’t know. My student didn’t have an IEP.

    There are several homeschooling textbook/DVD curriculums out there that have the lessons all planned out. Most of the people I know who homeschool happily create their own curricula using textbooks and DVDs. If there is a homeschooling convention in your area, you should check that out. Many of the homeschoolers I know went there to get their textbooks and teaching materials at a discount.

    In my state, if you don’t do virtual public school such as K12, you need to have an affidavit to legally homeschool. With an affidavit, you are actually creating your own “school” in your home. You can even name it. And then you just put together your curriculum and you’re good to go. So you might need to look into that as well.

    I’ve also known some people who homeschool through charter schools. Someone from the charter school would periodically meet with the homeschooling parent and the parent would submit grade reports. The student could take advantage of state testing and even could receive a diploma (high school). The homeschooling parents are able to choose their own curriculum and the charter school would bring it by at the meetings. Everything was paid for by taxes. The charter school avenue didn’t seem to have the pressure that the virtual public school avenue had.

    If you have any questions, feel free to e-mail me. I’d be happy to help.

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